Emotional & behavioural needs (EBD)

“Behaviour” is often the visible tip of a hidden problem: stress, unmet needs, skill gaps, or a mismatch between expectations and capacity. Support works best when adults focus on understanding patterns and teaching regulation skills — not just stopping behaviour.

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Who it’s for

  • Children who have frequent meltdowns, aggression, or shutdowns
  • Students with school behaviour concerns, conflicts, or emotional overwhelm
  • Families and schools who want a consistent, respectful support plan

Common concerns

  • Explosive reactions, low frustration tolerance, or quick escalation
  • Avoidance, refusal, or “shutting down” in class
  • Frequent arguments, defiance, or relationship strain
  • Stress-related sleep or appetite changes
  • Behaviour that worsens during transitions or increased demands

How we help

  • Map patterns: triggers, early warning signs, and what maintains the cycle
  • Teach regulation skills (naming feelings, calming tools, problem-solving)
  • Build predictable routines, boundaries, and repair strategies after conflict
  • Align home and school responses (with consent)
  • Recommend referrals when concerns suggest medical or specialist input is needed

What you can expect

  • Clear, blame-free formulation of what is driving the behaviour
  • A written strategy plan with specific adult responses
  • Regular review, because plans need to fit real life

Next steps

  1. Start with safety and predictability: reduce triggers where possible.
  2. Choose 1–2 strategies to practise consistently for a few weeks.
  3. Seek urgent medical support if there are immediate safety concerns.

FAQs

Is this “bad behaviour” or a discipline problem?

Sometimes boundaries are part of the solution, but behaviour often reflects stress or skill gaps. Support works best when adults teach skills while keeping limits calm and predictable.

What should we do during a meltdown?

Keep language simple, reduce demands, and focus on safety. After the child is calm, adults can problem-solve and practise coping tools for next time.

Will consequences fix it?

Consequences can sometimes reduce behaviour, but they rarely teach the missing skill. A combined approach (skills + environment + clear limits) is usually more effective.

Can anxiety show up as anger?

Yes. Some children “fight” when they feel threatened or overwhelmed. Understanding triggers helps choose the right support.

Do you work with schools?

With consent, yes. Consistency across adults is often the most important ingredient for change.

When should we seek urgent help?

If there is immediate risk of harm to the child or others, call 999 in Hong Kong or go to the nearest Accident & Emergency department.

Safety note

This guide is not a substitute for urgent care. If you believe someone is at immediate risk of harm, call 999 in Hong Kong or go to the nearest Accident & Emergency department.